January 8, 2025

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Hello, Wilding Women & Femmes! All are welcome here, including wilding wannabes!

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"Piratical Vagenda" is the official blog for The Agentic Feminine, written by -- yes -- me, Meredith.

 

This is my space. My online home.

 

SO. DAMN. EXCITED.

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After years of starts and stops, my blog is finally **FINALLY** here, where it always should have been -- MY. OWN. FREAKING. WEBSITE. This means the world to me.

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Before everything else, I write. Well, I read. Then I write. Then I speak. 

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Having a blog without ANYONE ELSE telling me what and how to write, without having to put it through a lens prioritizing and privileging the wants of others (so many unworthy others), without having to be... respectable... is the manifestation of my truest dream.

 

It is time. And, let me tell you, it is only time because my kids are all above 10 years of age and coming along fairly well in terms of self-sufficiency -- raising kids glued to YouTube clearly isn't as detrimental as the hair-on-fires proclaim. They know more about the Paleolithic Era than I ever forgot and discovered how to put contacts in their eyeballs. Win-win.

 

The biggest factor in my finally, ultimately, AT LONG LAST, writing a blog is that I'm divorced. Di-vorced. Unmarried. Uncoupled. Unpartnered. Single. And gloriously so.

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I don't have to play handmaiden - bangmaid - domestic servant  - mommy - therapist - sidekick - human furniture - administrative assistant to a man... so I have the time and space, physically, mentally, cosmically, to walk towards my own thriving life.

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Regular readers will learn I am chronic over-explainer due to being the youngest in an "unhealed" family of origin as well as a woman in a patriarchy. I HAVE MADE PEACE WITH MY INABILITY TO ZIP IT AND KEEP IT SHORT. I have tried to tamp it down, but that hinders me with paralyzing self-doubt. Unleashing my verbosity allows a peace heretofore unknown to me to settle my bones so I can keep on keepin' on.

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I write not to prove anything or convince anyone, but to explore and play and give my soul breath amidst this process of life.

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"Piratical Vagenda" has lived in my teeny tiny heart for three years. To honor my past self who was scared but determined for PV to bask in the light of online publication, I am including the first draft of the "About PV" page I wrote.

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It remains true.

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The following was written sometime in the Spring of 2022**

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My name is Meredith.

 

I'm a 45 yo mama of three school-age kiddos at the tail-end of a bitch of a divorce. I'm hellbent on rewilding and walking toward a life I'm in love with no matter what bullshit I may encounter. My hope is that, by sharing my rewilding story, I create space for other women/femmes to end their own self-abandonment and take back the narrative of their lives. It's a group project, I think.

 

This blog will be All Things Meredith, All Things Rewilding, All Things Divest from Neoliberal Capitalist, White Supremacist, Heteronormative Patriarchy.

 

I proclaim this space to be my free space to say whatever the fuck I want. To create and vibe and declare and process Earth School as I see it. As I experience it.

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To be what a woman finally claiming her agency looks like IN REAL TIME.

 

I'm spiritual, fun, intellectual, introspective, brash, compassionate -- all the things and ways and shades.​

 

I'm enormously overjoyed and grateful to be giving myself this opportunity. I've had to overcome a lot just to get to this point. While I may have a longggggg-ass way to go, simply sitting at this table in my kitchen, yelling at my kids to brush their teeth and get their jammies on, is nothing less than a goddamn victory. Thank you for sharing it with me.

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- Mer (we did it, sweet girl)

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The gulags of stay-at-home-mommyhood and subsequent steel cage match divorce rendered my writing a lil' bit crusty and rusty, but we have to start (again) somewhere.

 

Lezz go.